Most of Us Have Been Misinterpreting Life
Most of us have been misinterpreting life and what God is doing for a long time. â€œI think Iâ€™m just trying to get God to make my life work easier,â€ a client of mine confessed, but he could have been speaking for most of us. Weâ€™re asking the wrong questions. Most of us are asking, â€œGod, why did you let this happen to me?â€ Or, â€œGod, why wonâ€™t you just ________â€ (fill in the blankâ€”help me succeed, get my kids to straighten out, fix my marriageâ€”you know what youâ€™ve been whining about). But to enter into a journey of initiation with God requires a new set of questions:
- What are you trying to teach me here?
- What issues in my heart are you trying to raise through this?
- What is it you want me to see?
- What are you asking me to let go of?
In truth, God has been trying to initiate you for a long time. What is in the way is how youâ€™ve mishandled your wound and the life youâ€™ve constructed as a result.
â€œMen are taught over and over when they are boys that a wound that hurts is shameful,â€ notes Robert Bly in Iron John. Like a man whoâ€™s broken his leg in a marathon, he finishes the race even if he has to crawl and he doesnâ€™t say a word about it. A manâ€™s not supposed to get hurt; heâ€™s certainly not supposed to let it really matter. Weâ€™ve seen too many movies where the good guy takes an arrow, just breaks it off, and keeps on fighting; or maybe he gets shot but is still able to leap across a canyon and get the bad guys. And so most men minimize their wound. King David (a guy whoâ€™s hardly a pushover) didnâ€™t act like that at all. â€œI am poor and needy,â€ he confessed openly, â€œand my heart is wounded within meâ€ (Ps. 109:22).
Or perhaps theyâ€™ll admit it happened, but deny it was a wound because they deserved it. Suck it up, as the saying goes. The only thing more tragic than the tragedy that happens to us is the way we handle it.
(Wild at Heart , 104â€“6)
From The Ransomed Heart, by John Eldredge, reading 107
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