Comments on: To those who laughed at my daughter’s socks yesterday http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/ Life's short. Live passionately. Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:18:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Marc A. Pitman http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8282 Marc A. Pitman Fri, 16 Jan 2009 21:43:00 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8282 Um, Jade, I think you missed the point. Or don't know me. This is a great opportunity to teach her to be herself. And we're handling it that way. Um, Jade, I think you missed the point. Or don’t know me.

This is a great opportunity to teach her to be herself. And we’re handling it that way.

]]> By: Jade http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8281 Jade Fri, 16 Jan 2009 16:13:07 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8281 Please...so, you expect everyone to not laugh at your daughter when she is being cute and funny because she's super sensitive and might suffer adverse affects because of it? Give me a break. Try and see how far you get with that when she goes to kindergarten. Kids get laughed at, they laugh at others, and what's more, adults do it to each other all the time. Not saying it's right, just a fact of life. Teach her how to deal with it when people laugh at her. Don't come down on those who laugh because it's genuinely funny. If you can't do that for your daughter, then you're the real problem. Not us. Please…so, you expect everyone to not laugh at your daughter when she is being cute and funny because she’s super sensitive and might suffer adverse affects because of it? Give me a break. Try and see how far you get with that when she goes to kindergarten. Kids get laughed at, they laugh at others, and what’s more, adults do it to each other all the time. Not saying it’s right, just a fact of life.

Teach her how to deal with it when people laugh at her. Don’t come down on those who laugh because it’s genuinely funny. If you can’t do that for your daughter, then you’re the real problem. Not us.

]]> By: Ardell http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8279 Ardell Thu, 15 Jan 2009 20:03:02 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8279 Much sadness.... =( Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. May the Lord help her bounce back and continue with her joyful spirit. Much sadness…. =(

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

May the Lord help her bounce back and continue with her joyful spirit.

]]> By: nancy http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8273 nancy Sun, 11 Jan 2009 13:34:16 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8273 As Jon said, there is Hope. I know that the laughing and teasing always bothered her on the inside, but it didn't deter her sense of "style." She's definitely her own person and not defined by other's expectations. I love the picture. As Jon said, there is Hope. I know that the laughing and teasing always bothered her on the inside, but it didn’t deter her sense of “style.” She’s definitely her own person and not defined by other’s expectations. I love the picture.

]]> By: Gennyfer http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8272 Gennyfer Sun, 11 Jan 2009 13:02:59 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8272 To Mark, I have 5 or 6 children depending on how I count (my nephew lives with us) and I have seen this reaction a few times. Some of my children in similar mismatched glory have been thrilled with the power to make people laugh. My two more sensitive kiddos have at times reacted just the way your Lucy did. One of these is almost full grown now and seems to thrive on celebrating his differences. The other is 5 and still has these crushing moments we nurse her through. I have come to see these moments after 16 years of parenting as essential. This isn't easy but it is how they learn to see the scope of the world and the people in it. For a bright sensitive child it isn't easy but she will figure her own place in the world and she has the best of all possible starting points with such loving parents. To Miss Lucy, You are so clever matching your socks to your outfit. There are some other clever sock people who have come up with a way to make money having had the same brilliant idea you did. Ask your dad to show you the great socks here http://www.littlemissmatched.com/ and here http://www.socklady.com/index.php . And I confess, there are grown ups who can make some silly fashion choices. I got in to the chair at the dentists office, threw my feet up on the foot rest and noticed... not mismatched socks.... mismatched sneakers. I'm all grown up now, it took me years to learn this, but instead of feeling bad I just laughed at myself. In fact I thought it was so funny I put it in my blog so other people could get a chance to giggle too. http://raisingmaine.mainetoday.com/blogentry.html?id=10381 So darling keep wearing whatever clothes make you happy. You are making great choices. To Mark, I have 5 or 6 children depending on how I count (my nephew lives with us) and I have seen this reaction a few times. Some of my children in similar mismatched glory have been thrilled with the power to make people laugh. My two more sensitive kiddos have at times reacted just the way your Lucy did. One of these is almost full grown now and seems to thrive on celebrating his differences. The other is 5 and still has these crushing moments we nurse her through. I have come to see these moments after 16 years of parenting as essential. This isn’t easy but it is how they learn to see the scope of the world and the people in it. For a bright sensitive child it isn’t easy but she will figure her own place in the world and she has the best of all possible starting points with such loving parents.

To Miss Lucy,

You are so clever matching your socks to your outfit. There are some other clever sock people who have come up with a way to make money having had the same brilliant idea you did. Ask your dad to show you the great socks here http://www.littlemissmatched.com/ and here http://www.socklady.com/index.php .

And I confess, there are grown ups who can make some silly fashion choices. I got in to the chair at the dentists office, threw my feet up on the foot rest and noticed… not mismatched socks…. mismatched sneakers. I’m all grown up now, it took me years to learn this, but instead of feeling bad I just laughed at myself. In fact I thought it was so funny I put it in my blog so other people could get a chance to giggle too. http://raisingmaine.mainetoday.com/blogentry.html?id=10381

So darling keep wearing whatever clothes make you happy. You are making great choices.

]]> By: Magno http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8270 Magno Sun, 11 Jan 2009 03:20:37 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8270 rock on with your colorful, beautiful self baby girl!! rock on with your colorful, beautiful self baby girl!!

]]> By: Jim Hughes http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8269 Jim Hughes Sun, 11 Jan 2009 02:37:33 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8269 This resonated with me on a lot of levels. First was for Lucy and her sensitivity to what others thought that changed her behavior. Second was a strong awareness that I'm both extremely sensitive to what others think of my behavior, and as a result have to be careful of how I judge others' behaviors. And wondering if maybe people laughed at my mismatched socks when I was young and made me this way. Blessings to Lucy for her creativity and to a Dad that's sensitive to her! This resonated with me on a lot of levels. First was for Lucy and her sensitivity to what others thought that changed her behavior. Second was a strong awareness that I’m both extremely sensitive to what others think of my behavior, and as a result have to be careful of how I judge others’ behaviors. And wondering if maybe people laughed at my mismatched socks when I was young and made me this way. Blessings to Lucy for her creativity and to a Dad that’s sensitive to her!

]]> By: Marc A. Pitman http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8268 Marc A. Pitman Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:40:45 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8268 Thank you ALL! I've read these to S. tonight. She's not convinced. But it was WONDERFUL to read all these to her! Thank you ALL! I’ve read these to S. tonight. She’s not convinced. But it was WONDERFUL to read all these to her!

]]> By: Meg http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8267 Meg Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:33:06 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8267 well said, but sorry you had to say it. I'm posting a photo of Lucy in her mis-matched chuck taylors in tribute. Sounds like these girls have stuff in common :) well said, but sorry you had to say it. I’m posting a photo of Lucy in her mis-matched chuck taylors in tribute. Sounds like these girls have stuff in common :)

]]> By: Peter R. Wood http://marcpitman.com/2009/01/10/to-those-who-laughed-at-my-daughters-socks-yesterday/comment-page-1/#comment-8266 Peter R. Wood Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:15:12 +0000 http://marcpitman.com/?p=814#comment-8266 That is absolutely heartbreaking! If I owned socks in more than one color, I would "missed-match" them in her honor! That is absolutely heartbreaking! If I owned socks in more than one color, I would “missed-match” them in her honor!

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