Love & War: a new book on marriage from John & Stasi Eldredge

Love & War is the latest book from John and Stasi Eldredge. From the authors that brought us Wild at Heart, Captivating, and Epic, comes a book specifically on marriage. So when WaterBrook Multnomah offered to send me a book to reivew, I jumped at the opportunity!

I just got the book but right from the introduction, you get vintage Eldredge take on life. Stasi narrates a wedding ceremony John is officiating. I wish my ceremony had been like this! I love this quote from John:

Daniel and Megan, you are about to abandon yourselves to each other, throw caution to the wind, forsake independence, isolation, and all others. You will vow to each other you undying love. Before you do, we must call this what it is–this is perfect madness.

So true!

The chapters are:

Introduction: It Can Be Done

  1. Remembering What We Wanted
  2. Love and War
  3. A Perfect Storm
  4. The Greatest Gift You Can Give
  5. More Than Just Roommates
  6. How to Have a Really Good Fight
  7. A Shared Adventure
  8. Back-to-Back with Swords Drawn
  9. The Little Foxes
  10. When Storms Descend
  11. The Chapter on Sex
  12. Learning to Love

Appendix: Prayers

The prayers alone make this book a tremendous asset!

I love how the Eldredges remind us of the great adventure we’re on. That’s why we resonate with the great stories and movies of risk and adventure and friendship.

This book helps re-orient the perspectives of married couples. Marriage is a fight, but it’s also a bold adventure. The Eldredges are terrific guides on the journey.

14 Years by the numbers – an anniversary reflection

My wife of 14 years
14 years ago, at about this time, I was getting ready to walk down the aisle with the woman who was to be my wife. (Yes, we both walked down the aisle.)

14 years by the numbers:

  • 5110 days
  • 7,358,400 minutes
  • 441,504,000 seconds
  • 1 trip to India (the other was in the few brief months before we were married!)
  • 12 moves
  • 3 babies
  • 3 states
  • 3 employers (and 1 pyscho I worked for when I was self-employed)
  • 1 church plant
  • 5,000 individuals in the Waterville area shown God’s love in practical ways

What is harder to quantify is the ups and the downs, the curves God’s thrown on our path, the growth that comes from hardship and the joys that come from growth.

But any way you count it, I’m grateful for these 14 years and am looking forward to the next 114!

Father-in-laws say the darnedest things

My father-in-law Guy stopped by the house today. I always enjoy visiting with Em’s parents. But visits can be a bit like Forrest Gump’s box of chocolates: you never know what you’re going to get.

At one point, we got to talking about our new kitten and helping her get used to our ways. Guy is really well versed in animal husbandry and horticulture, so I like hearing his take on things.

He said, “The best thing is to get them young and train them right.”

Then he looked at Em and said, “Just like Pitmans, huh?”

Apparently he’s well versed in husband‘s too! ๐Ÿ˜‰